The moment you debut those tiny babies in public, i.e. go to the store, get some much needed coffee, or head out to a play date, be prepared for the intensely personal questions, inappropriate comments, and all-around staring that comes with raising triplets.
Triplets are relatively uncommon, in general and across Alaska, with only three sets born in the state (including us) in 2018; it’s always an adventure to see what people will say when you are out and about, minding your own business and trying to get through the day.
Q: Are they twins?
A: Believe it or not, we get asked this one ALL THE TIME. Either people can’t count (1, 2, 3- this is all I seem to do everyday) or they just aren’t paying attention. I typically answer with a snobby “no, they are triplets. Twins would be too easy.”
Q: Are they natural?
A: The correct question is are they spontaneous…and yes, they are, which occurs in roughly 32 out of every 100,000 births in the US.
If your family conceived through IVF, we salute you! Your baby(s) is wonderful and just as amazing as ours. We all have a journey to go through with wins and losses; be proud and vocal with your story! Fertility should not be a taboo topic, everyone deserves support and guidance through this journey.
Q: Do multiples run in your family?
A: Yes, fraternal twins are on both sides, but genetically speaking, spontaneous multiples are a fluke and not something that can be passed down between generations. The Douglets are the first set of triplets and the first granddaughters on Craig’s side of the family.
Q: What was their due date?
A: Their 40 week due date was May 8th; however, 36 weeks is the realistic due date for triplets and the one the doctor’s use.
Q: How far along were they at birth?
A: They were born at 33 weeks on the dot. This was Becca’s goal to make, as the risk of brain bleeds goes down 95% at 33 weeks.
Q: Did you have any weird pregnancy cravings?
A: The morning (all-day) sickness kept most cravings at bay the first four months, but eventually the main cravings were Taco Bell hard tacos (not anything else from there!), tapioca pudding and ice cold milk. Not mixed together.
Later on protein shakes were a must to eat enough calories. You wouldn’t believe how intensely hungry one can be while growing triplets; and how difficult it is to fit food in one’s stomach when growing babies are hanging out on it. Packing in those calories was very difficult, with the doctor recommending 100+ grams of protein per day. That’s a lot of protein!
Q: How was pregnancy?
A: A dad’s answer to this question is very different from a mom’s. Dads say it went by quick and we had minimal complications. Moms would say it was the longest seven months ever, with around the clock morning sickness for waaaaay too long! The doctor prescribed Diclegis to help curb the nausea, which helped food stay down for the most part, but still made for a long few months. After the morning sickness subsided, then came the big belly, difficulty getting comfortable and squished organs!
Q: Were they natural birth or Cesarean Section?
A: C-Section. With their configuration in the womb, natural birth would have been far too dangerous and had a 99.99% guarantee of a surgical outcome anyway. And, like I enjoy telling people now, why not be super efficient!? All three girls were out in less than two minutes!
Q: How long was the hospital/NICU stay?
A: Our NICU stay lasted about a month total and provided time for Becca to heal from the surgery and regain mobility strength (after being home for two months). Harper and Emerie shared a room at first with Reagan across the hall; eventually we were given the “luxury suite” that fit all three together. Reagan came home April 17th at 28 days old. Harper and Emerie came home on April 21 at 32 days.
Q: Did you exclusively breast feed, pump, use formula, or a combination of all three?
A: Please note, there is no right answer to this question, only a “right-for-you” answer. Everyone is different and that’s okay; it’s all about what is best for your babies! Because of the NICU stay, we decided the best option for us was exclusively pumping and feeding the girls with bottles. Within two hours of delivery, I worked to start my milk supply, pumping around the clock every 2-2.5 hours or so. This was very doable with the girls at the hospital, and prepped more for the round-the-clock feedings once they came home.
Q: Do you have any recommendations for improving milk supply?
A: Luckily my milk came in and I was able to nearly exclusively supplement the girls on breast milk for the first year. A few things I’ve found to help increase milk supply: eat a LOT and drink as much water as possible, find ingredients for lactation cookies/snacks and request friends make them for you (until you have time to), take hot showers and use hot compresses before pumping, power pump, and stay dedicated to your pumping schedule, even when tired and busy. It’s worth it!
Q: Are they identical?
A: Yes, they are all identical. Having spontaneous identical triplets is around a 1 in 200 million chance. We did a DNA test at about 4 months old to confirm.
Q: How do you tell them apart?
A: At 2 AM we don’t… all the other times it is easy to tell Emerie from the other two as she is a full pound smaller and has a hemangioma on her forehead. When they were smaller, Harper had a longer face than Reagan, and Reagan chubbier cheeks. For a while we painted their thumbnails with their assigned colors; as they grew we put them in distinct colors: Harper in pink, Emerie in purple and Reagan in teal.
The older they get, the more personalities and mannerisms differentiate who is who. Everyone else uses their colors!
Q: What is the hardest age so far?
A: Each year seems to be hard in a different way. The first few months were physically the hardest, with round-the-clock feeds every three hours, 24 hours a day. That meant feeding them, pumping, and trying to get a few things done around the house and maybe a short nap in, 24/7. Once longer sleep stretches occurred, daily life became a little more manageable with some sleep. We had a good stretch of sleep from about Month 5 to Month 9, until teething ruined it!
Once mobility occurred, for us at about a year, days became harder in a different way. The girls are easier to feed, play with, entertain, etc., but definitely harder to keep an eye on. Now that they are climbers and escape artists at age two, the days might be a little easier in terms of communication but otherwise are stressful in a different way. And there is always something that needs to be done!
Q: Are you having more kids?
A: We get asked this constantly. In fact, within the first few months numerous people curiously inquired about this. At age two, I get about the same amount of people asking. So…ask us again in a few years!! If you question this answer, come over and babysit for an afternoon…that should answer the question!
Q: Why are we blogging?
A: To be a resource!!! There are not a lot resources, blogs, and what not out there for multiples and triplet families. We hope that a triplet family or two can find our blog and it can answer the questions and settle the worries that we had.
There are good resources for twins out there which we found helpful; however, logistically routines for triplets and twins are vastly different.
We also enjoy blogging as a way to look back on our family adventures. The first year is full of many sleepless nights and extremely tired parents. This is a way to remember all the wonderful, little things throughout that time and capture how amazing this journey really is.